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Nicole Tollenaar
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)
Low Cost Rate
$65; currently full, waitlist only
$100
Standard Rate
$120
Location
Toronto
Currently Practicing
Online
Nicole Tollenaar
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)

About…

Hello, I’m nikki.

I come to this work shaped by nearly a decade of frontline social service work, which has led me to practice from a trauma-informed, harm-reduction oriented and intersectional approach. I tend to attract folks, who like me, are creative, neurodivergent, queer, and spiritually or politically-minded – those grappling with how to live, how to love, and how to stay tender in a complicated world.

Therapy with me is relational, spacious, and exploratory. I hold a deep respect for the body’s wisdom and for the protective patterns we’ve developed – even the ones that confuse or frustrate us. I believe ‘symptoms’ are not simply problems to be fixed, but messengers shaped by experience and relationship, carrying important truths about what’s been endured and what still needs tending. As such, I welcome what’s heavy, hidden, and hard to name, while also making room for joy, humour, and irreverence.

My work is grounded in somatic therapy, parts work, mindfulness, and attachment theory. I’m interested in issues of identity, relationships and communication, attachment wounds, as well as navigating grief, loss and life transitions. In session we may explore where and how emotions are stored in the body (and how we can endure, embrace or move them), and what parts of self are connected to them. I may point out patterns, offer skills & resources, or explore how we can reframe and expand perspectives in order to nurture authenticity, presence and agency.

As someone with ADHD, my interests are vast and varied. Outside of the therapy room you can find me birding, hanging out with wildflowers, at shows and protests, lifting weights, or writing songs inspired by sci-fi, tarot and dreams.

Community Focus:
BIPOC, LGBTQ+, Neurodivergent, Non-Binary, Polyamorous, Sex Work Positive, Spiritual, Women
Issues:
ADD/ADHD, Anger, Anxiety, Break-Ups, Burnout/Stress, C-PTSD, Codependence, Family of Origin, Grief/Loss, Relationships, Self Esteem, Trauma
Modalities:
Anti-Oppressive, Attachment Focused, Emotion Focused, Inner Child Work, Mindfulness, Relational, Somatic, Trauma Informed
* Available Virtually (Online) in Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Newfoundland, NorthWest Territories, Ontario, Quebec, Saskatchewan, Yukon
Location:
Toronto

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